Treading carefully to avoid slipping on any of the worms from this can, I think you don't play the game, whatever that is, if it is not what you believe from a principled, ethical, moral or whatever viewpoint you have. If you think you have done the right thing by your family, and tried to instill the right values, then be comfortable with that.
Remember, invariably the problem lies with those who are discriminating, not those who are on the other end.
I would hope this thread does not go pear-shaped.